Life and its lessons (31)
Life and its lessons (31) 💚 😇
Healing ☺️:
Being in charge of my own healing is one of the most powerful and life changing lessons I re-learn every year and is the highlight of my yearly reflections.
Life will give you punches, disappointments😢, heart breaks 💔, unkept promises, neglect, missed opportunities and manipulations. Regardless of what you receive its your responsibility to heal. I have accepted apologies that I have not received, let go of dreams and notions of a world I once pictured, learning to move and deal with lies and empty words, forgave myself for missed opportunities, plans, mistakes and taking wrong turns. I have accepted not to wait for someone or something. My lesson, healing is not for someone else, it’s for me - Console, support, talk, care, cry and seek help and have this as a continuous process part of daily life. I cannot afford to wait for the world 🌍 to always go my way, plans and dreams to align straight and have smooth roads. I have lived long enough to realize this world is not meant to be linear. My little heart ❤️ – may you continue to heal and always come out as victor and not the victim.
Fault 😞:
Judgements, finding faults and extremes are people’s way of dealing these days. Sometimes you will be gaslit to question your own reality, suppress oneself to fit in and work on agendas and opinions that are not yours. Even then you will still be doing something wrong 😏:
- Eat well with a good appetite; you eat too much – don’t eat; you have a bad health
- Try to talk and communicate; always nagging – stop talking; you don’t know how to express
- Work well and exceed; you are doing too much – be average; you are not trying hard enough
- Cry and share feelings; you are too emotional – stay silent and you are giving the silent treatment
- Ask for help; nowhere to be found – try to do things on my own; acting like a boss lady
- Let’s talk and plan; I am needy – have my own plans; I am hard minded
- Ask for support; have no time – when results are reached, they take credit
- Always giving; taken for granted – you stop giving and you are selfish.
My lesson, you will be stuck if you wish and wait for the understanding and acceptance of others 👥. Keep moving regardless, learn from your mistakes and don’t wait, explain a little because either way you are at fault.
Acts of service 💕:
You get the warm feeling and assurance 😍 when someone supports, uses kind words, shows appreciation, gives meaningful gifts and knows when you need help. This reminds me of a video I watched years ago talking about how love is a verb, how feelings are halfway, and love is an action and should be seen. We live in a world where many people especially those we trust leave imprints of hurt which makes me really appreciate the small and consistent acts that someone does for me, that leave a positive imprint. Knowing how it is important to me, I try to do this for others too – small acts that hopefully have imprints on them. My lesson, appreciate and cherish the small acts you receive and continue to be example.
Note to self ✏️📘:
Start even if you don’t feel like it, continue to do it even if you don’t see the results now.
Inspiration ❤️:
For this posts inspiration I will leave you with a line I saw somewhere – “You are allowed to break sometimes” Allah has made us human, and we are not meant to be prefect. From one human to another - it’s okay to not be okay.
Until next time Insha’Allah – Cya 👊
#my_one_step_at_a_time 🚶♀️
Zuhur